The five stages of grief are denial, bargaining, anger, despair, acceptance. My own personal stages of dealing with the terrorist attacks have been: a form of denial where everything was too unbelievable to digest, a sadness where it had finally sunk in and I felt depressed and tearful, and now I’m going through an easily irritable mood that is probably an anger stage. I think after the anger comes some sort of grudging acceptance, but it’s not going to be a very calming acceptance.